A Note on Intersexed
Intersexed is a general term describing a number of different congenital conditions in which a person's physical sex--ie their chromosomal, morphologic, genital, and/or gonadal sex--is made up of a combination of both traditionally male and female characteristics. One in two thousand people are born with an intersex condition, and although these conditions are almost never detrimental to their health, most of them are routinely operated on at birth in an attempt to make their genitals and/or gonads conform to a more gender binary appearance. These children are then assigned a single gender and raised male or female; the choice depending on what their condition was, what surgery or other treatments were proscribed, and the opinion of their doctor. Parents are told to keep the diagnosis and any medical treatments that occurred a secret from the child, so that they can grow up and be a "normal" boy or girl. Problems can occur if the child grows up to identify as a different gender than the one they were assigned, especially if their body was surgically altered to conform to the incorrectly assigned gender.Not all intersexed conditions are visible on the body, even if the person is nude. Some are just nominal variations on otherwise typical male/female genitalia. Others are not visible from outside the body at all, such as those involving the internal reproductive system, chromosomes, or hormones. Because the typical medical protocol requires secrecy some people never even discover they are intersexed, or they do so it is by accident as an adult, when undergoing testing for some other medical condition.
Intersex issues are often viewed as a subset of LGBT awareness, particularly the Transgender/gender identity component. In reality, intersexuality is a biological reality, not a gender identification, and there are plenty of people who consider themselves to be simply male or female with an intersex condition, the same as any other individual characteristic such as being tall or having freckles. However, there are also Intersexed people with a capital "I", whose intersexuality strongly factors into their gender identity.
For example, someone who feels that their gender identity is informed by their intersexuality might ID themselves as genderqueer as a way to recognize that they feel neither male nor female, or that they are a combination of both. Or someone who was assigned female at birth but grows up to identify as (and perhaps transition to) male might refer to themselves as an intersexed transman. Intersexed people may therefore have a primary gender identification such as male, female, genderqueer, or transwoman/man, along with their intersexuality.
We feel that the important thing to focus on for Poly Speed Dating purposes is the person's gender identity and presentation, which is why we have not made Intersexed a category choice on your form. If you are looking to date a woman, and you meet someone who is intersexed, whose gender identity and presentation is female, and whom you think is attractive and would be fun to date, you can then respectfully ask her if it's ok to talk about her intersex condition and what impact (if any) it has on her romantic life. Then you can make a decision about dating her based on her answer, along with whatever other compatibility and lifestyle issues you may consider important...just like you would with anyone else.
To read more about intersexuality and intersex conditions, please go here.